I don't know. I happened to have this thought when I was bathing and thinking of an incident which happened last week.

A friend was being asked to return office for an incomplete task which he told me he had seek for his superior's advice before submitting. He was then fed up and furious about how incompetent his superior is who gave him wrong advice. Apparantly, this supposed to be an important report required from the staffs yearly.

He all along knew how bad his boss is where he complained to me several times so I thought he should have seek for other colleagues' advices instead. He shouldn't have push the blame to his useless boss, right?

But I was thinking, by pushing blame, does it make one feel better?

- No, it's not my fault. I did asked my boss for advice. He's at fault TOTALLY. In this case, I won't feel bad about myself. Ya?

I wonder, how many of us do that? To be frank, I don't. I will always take mistakes as lessons instead of pushing blame around makes me feel like a lousy person. BUT! BUT! BUT! Sometimes with pushing blame around, you will be a happier person and you try all means to convince people (including yourself!) that you are not wrong which implies "YOU ARE ALWAYS RIGHT"

Are you... in this dilemma?

"Normal" is to make abnormal happens regularly and becomes normal.